Often times, when I get inquiries for birth work what I hear from people is…
“Hi, So my friend told me you’re a doula and I’m not super sure what to expect, but I’d really like to hire you for my birth!”
Whoa! While I’m SUPER flattered and impressed that you trust your friend THAT much, I’m going to ask for a date first!
I like to keep it pretty real with my clients and the reality is, that while I’d LOVE to be able to say “Yes!” to every inquiry I get, I shouldn’t.
But rest assured, it’s not you, it’s me.
I work with a WIDE array of families and family situations, but I’m not the right person for everyone.
For one thing, my schedule isn’t always accommodating. I can’t be in two places at once. While I wish I could take on 4 or 5 births every month, I just can’t.
For the sake of my clients, I need to refill my cup so I can pour out of it later.
For another, more important thing, I want my clients to know that just like in ALL aspects of their birth they have choices and options.
I want you to be able to ask me all kinds of questions and, either hear the answers you want to hear and we strike up a great working relationship or, come to the conclusion that I’m not the doula for you.
I promise, if I’m not the right person, my feelings won’t be hurt. Because I know that the other doula’s around me are amazing, incredible, lovely humans that will love and support the heck out of you.
And lastly, I want to make sure that you’re someone that I can work with. I know that sounds a little bit selfish, but it’s important for all doula’s to make sure that the people they’re working for are people that they are comfortable with. No doula should ever feel like they’re in a compromising situation physically, professionally, or emotionally. By “dating” we are able to make sure that we are working within healthy boundaries that allow us to do our best work.
So, when you’re looking for a doula, go on dates. Go on lots of dates. Find the ONE and know that you’ve made the best choice you can.
And once you commit, keep up the communication 😉 Just like with any relationship, communication is key!
